Testimonies of Cary Quashen and Action

Here's What The Community Has To Say About Cary Quashen
 
and ACTION 
 
• Here’s what Steven M. Jarvis says about ACTION and Cary 
 
Quashen…
 
“A few words about Cary Quashen and the ACTION Program: As 
 
a father of twin High School drug addicts, I can only say these 
 
words through a story of my life:
 
 
 
I had married and moved to Santa Clarita when my twin girls 
 
finished Junior High in Simi Valley. After one year of things 
 
progressively getting worse for me, my girls and our new 
 
family (4 teenaged girls), there was a light at the end of the 
 
tunnel - ACTION. We heard about ACTION through some 
 
friends, and decided that we should try it out. My wife and I 
 
went to our first meeting - without any children. 
 
 
 
I was still in denial that my twins were using drugs. I was 
 
afraid, I was embarrassed, and I was lost in a world that was 
 
unfamiliar to me as a 48 year old man! Then after several 
 
introductions of other adult "guests" my fears started to 
 
subside, and I felt that my wife and I were not alone in this 
 
unfamiliar world.
 
 
 
Then after all the introductions of the "guests" of ACTION, 
 
Cary introduces himself as an ex-addict that has been clean 
 
for twenty plus years, and that he has work with "at risk teens 
 
for a long time. He also states that we are glad you are here, 
 
but we are sorry you have to be here, but this is a good place 
 
to be! By this time, the feelings have changed to a more calm 
 
and hopeful feeling that I can help my teenagers fight the 
 
addiction!
 
 
 
I have been a loyal ACTION participant with at least one of my 
 
twins for 2 1/2 years. One twin is thankful for the help of Cary 
 
and ACTION, and is now in a year long program, and the other 
 
twin has been in and out of 8 treatment and mental health 
 
facilities, and is on the LONG road to recovery.
 
 
 
Cary's calming voice has been heard by me many times, at 
 
all hours of the day and night, giving me the strength to fight 
 
the addiction with my twins and not against them. Cary and 
 
the ACTION team are credited with saving the lives of my 
 
twins, and helping me, the parent of twin addicts, live a more 
 
productive life.
 
 
 
I am still fearful that at any time one or both of the twins 
 
will "re-lapse," but I now have the tools, the knowledge, and 
 
more importantly the SUPPORT I needed from Cary and the 
 
ACTION team. Drug abuse is a community and a nationwide 
 
problem, and with more Cary's and ACTIONs in the community 
 
and the nation, the more this "unfamiliar" world will turn 
 
into a "familiar" world with the parents knowing how to help 
 
instead of being lost ...
 
 
 
We end the meeting with the words "keep coming back 'cause 
 
it works if you work it, and it won't if you don't, so work it 
 
because your worth it." Our teenagers are worth it! Thank you 
 
Cary and ACTION.” Steven M. Jarvis – Parent.
 
• Here’s what parents Rob and Darlene Curran have to say 
 
about Cary Quashen and ACTION… 
 
“First of all ACTION saved me from losing my mind because I 
 
thought I was the only one in the entire world that had a kid 
 
that over indulged in smoking pot. I didn’t know what “pot” 
 
was and how addictive is. The ACTION Parent & Teen Support 
 
group enlightened me on what drug addiction is and how to 
 
deal with it. ACTION taught me and my husband how to be on 
 
the same page and be team when it came to tough parenting, 
 
and the need to be a parenting team and a team on the same 
 
page. ACTION gave me the tools and the how to, to created 
 
and follow through with consequences for my kid’s actions. 
 
ACTION enlighten me and taught me that, parents have rights 
 
and that children have rights, and where to draw the line and 
 
has allowed me to take action. It has taught me what kind 
 
of ACTION to take. The reassurance that Cary has given us, 
 
that he is only a phone call away to support our family is very 
 
reassuring.” Rob and Darlene Curran - Parents.
 
• Here’s what John Krinkle, William S. Hart High School 
 
District Principal has this to say about Cary Quashen and 
 
ACTION… 
 
 
 
"I first met Cary Quashen four years ago as the Passport 
 
Academy school principal. Passport Academy students are all 
 
high-risk students who did not graduate from the 8th grade 
 
and were students who needed an alternative 9th grade high 
 
school placement option. The school housed 100 students on 
 
a yearly basis. Cary spoke yearly to these kids about his life, 
 
his tough school transition, his drug and alcohol use. He used 
 
his own personal experiences to transcend or bridge the gap 
 
and created relationships with these kids to allow them to 
 
work on their own behavior issues. Cary then meet weekly 
 
with students who wanted to work on changing behaviors 
 
detrimental to their school performance, as well working 
 
with teens who wanted to be come clean and sober. Cary was 
 
always available to counsel with kids. 
 
Kids need to know that people care about them and Cary truly 
 
cares about kids. He is instrumental in kids getting in touch 
 
with their emotional and physical needs. 
 
Cary is like the movie "Pay It Forward," he has inspired all 
 
sorts of people to volunteer their time who have been there 
 
before and experienced the same situations in their lives that 
 
these teens are experiencing. He teaches them to work with 
 
teen's needs and they have the opportunity to "pay it forward" 
 
and give back to others what was once given to them and teach 
 
others the ability to achieve positive changed behaviors. 
 
Cary is the critical component to finding outside placement for 
 
kids in need of other health service options. When Cary and 
 
ACTION is asked to come in and intervene in a crucial situation, 
 
Cary comes in with an objective manner and has the ability to 
 
assist in the personal/private lives of at risk teens and their 
 
families.” John Krinkle, William. S. Hart High School District 
 
Principal. 
 
• Here’s what Robin Giesler, Bowman High School Principal 
 
has to say about Cary Quashen and ACTION…
 
“The ACTION program a tremendous resource for teenagers 
 
and families who experience the heartbreak and family crisis 
 
of teens who are experiencing at-risk behavior. Cary is a caring 
 
individual, dedicated and committed to helping families in 
 
trouble. Bowman High School is often thought about as a 
 
school campus for misfit kids. Cary and his school counselors 
 
visit on their own time as volunteers at our campus every 
 
Tuesday and works with a group of kids who are battling 
 
drug and alcohol issues as well as truancy issues. Thanks 
 
to Cary and his program we have a number of students 
 
who have achieved sobriety and have once again become 
 
motivated students who are working hard enjoying school both 
 
academically and socially. Robin Giesler, Bowman High School 
 
Principal.”
 
• Ed Redd has this to say about ACTION and Cary Quashen 
 
….
 
“I have been working with teens for a number of years as well 
 
as teaching parenting classes for the City of Santa Clarita. I 
 
constantly refer families to the ACTION Parent & Teen Support 
 
program who are in need of long-term intervention and 
 
support. Be it defiant teen issues, truancy issues, or drug and 
 
alcohol issues, parents who attend ACTION report they walk 
 
away with 
 
on going support day or night. They tell me they have gained 
 
strength and wisdom from the program and are able to put into 
 
ACTION the new 
 
parenting skills they have learned. But what's more important
 
to me is the feedback I receive from teens who tell me they 
 
are comfortable attending ACTIOIN meetings and look forward 
 
to being there every Tuesday evening. I have witnessed many 
 
teens attending these meeting alone with out parental support. 
 
That's testimony enough to the good works of a program 
 
when teens are willing to attend all by themselves.” Ed Redd, 
 
Parenting Instructor City of Santa Clarita. 
 
• DeDe Kelly has this to say about ACTION and Cary 
 
Quashen … 
 
“What do you say about a man who voluntarily picks up 
 
the phone every time you call with a kid in crisis? As a 
 
school counselor I find the services of Cary Quashen and 
 
ACTION invaluable. Be it a teen in severe depression, a teen 
 
threatening suicide, or a teen who's behavior is so defiant that 
 
we must remove him from school as not effect other students, 
 
Cary is there. He has been there to provide counseling services
 
to school counselors, school physiologists, teachers and more 
 
importantly students and parents. What is amazing about 
 
this is, that he volunteers his time. He hosts a class weekly 
 
for Saugus students who are struggling with sobriety and are 
 
working on various aspects of changed behavior be it grades,
 
attitude or self esteem issues. When it seems that parents 
 
have exhausted all options it gives me great pleasure to refer 
 
families to the ACTION Parent & Teen Support Group Program.” 
 
DeDe Kelly, Saugus High School Counselor.
 
 
 
• Here's what Mary Chester has to say about ACTION and 
 
Cary Quashen 
 
"Cary Quashen is a hero who needs to be acknowledged. He 
 
is a very rare human being who never asks for anything, but 
 
continues to give. He is my 911 when I can't figure out how 
 
to help a family in crisis. He is always there to help and he 
 
never gives up on families. As a child and welfare attendance
 
specialist for the William S. Hart High School District, I make 
 
referrals to ACTION from the School Attendance Review Board 
 
and the way that we judge an organization's performance 
 
is, and whether or not they are helpful, is by assessing their 
 
success rates and monitoring changed student and family
 
behaviors. As a professional, I can make referrals to ACTION 
 
and see families change, families willing to make changes in 
 
how they discipline their kids and become responsible in taking 
 
ACTION for their teen's behavior. It has been the use of the 
 
ACTION program, which is free and volunteered to us, that 
 
we have seen our greatest interventions and changed family
 
behaviors. We see families getting healthy. We send 
 
Cary Quashen and ACTION our most difficult cases. He never 
 
gives up. Day or night, he is available to our office. When you 
 
only have two professionals serving a high school population 
 
with over 17,000 students it is estimated that 10 percent of 
 
that student population is an at risk population. It takes a 
 
village to raise these teens and Cary is an integral part of 
 
that village. Cary is truly a humble humanitarian and serves 
 
our community selflessly." Mary Chester, Child and Welfare 
 
Attendance Specialist for the Wm. S. Hart High School District. 
 
• Here's what Lori DiAcri has to say about ACTIONand Cary 
 
Quashen…
 
“I was amazed and thankful there is a program like this when 
 
your family is hitting rock bottom. Carrie (my daughter) had 
 
been in trouble at school but we were we were in denial. I 
 
knew something was going on because I saw all the changes 
 
and the signs, but didn’t want to believe them. The first sign 
 
of trouble became apparent when she was busted at school for 
 
holding “pot.” She told me she was holding it for a friend. I had 
 
no reason not to believe her because she had never been in 
 
trouble and smoking was not in her nature. She was grounded, 
 
and began to change and we felt 
 
like we were on the road to a straight and narrow path. This 
 
is when, we as a family, and I as a parent learned how strong 
 
the lure of peer pressure is and about the herd mentality of 
 
kids. We had just found our way to ACTION(a school principal 
 
suggested we attend a meeting) and had just attended the City 
 
of Santa Clarita’s Blue Ribbon Taskforce Teen Scene Unplugged 
 
event, to begin working on our denial issues and to begin to 
 
learn to strengthen our parenting skills. We had just met Cary 
 
Quashen and Cary gave his business card to my daughter Carrie 
 
when the unimaginable occurred and we got that dreaded 
 
phone call from school, “Mrs. DiAcri, your daughter is being 
 
taken away in an ambulance to Henry Mayo Hospital, she has 
 
just overdose on some kind of drug, but she is still alive.” 
 
It’s obvious that my kid not only had a problem, but a sever 
 
problem. Before I made it to the doors of ACTIONI had so much 
 
shame that everything in my life was so upside down. How 
 
could I not be meeting the needs of my kids when I was so 
 
successful in my life? As a family, when you are in crisis, you 
 
are fragile and it’s tough to walk into a room and seek help. 
 
The ACTION Parent & Teen Support Group Program gives me 
 
and my family a forum to discuss our problems, to say “this is 
 
where my life is” and a place to be safe, a place to be accepted 
 
and not judged. Cary has been a blessing in our lives (parents 
 
and daughter). He has not only provided the help we needed 
 
when we needed it. He has, through numerous resources 
 
to provide Carrie with the help she needed when it came to 
 
finding her the medical and psychological help she needed.” 
 
Lori DiAcri - Parent
 
• Here’s what Dell Schillec has to say about Cary Quashen 
 
and ACTION…
 
 
 
“Without this program I have no idea where my daughter 
 
would be at this point in time. Not to get dramatic, but she 
 
would probably be dead by now.
 
 
 
With one phone call and conversation Cary enabled me to put 
 
her in a lock-down facility in Los Angeles. He and I had never 
 
spoken up to this point, as a matter of fact we were working 
 
with with another group at the time and they are the ones who 
 
recommended Cary.
 
 
 
My daughter was out of control using drugs, drinking and 
 
failing high school-previously she had been an A student. She 
 
ran away, changed her circle of friends and generally started 
 
down a path that looked endless...until we came in contact with 
 
Action.
 
 
 
Carey had trained counselors to handle the kids and to handle 
 
the parents. Being able to walk into a room with other parents 
 
going through the same kind of behavior you are dealing with 
 
and having the same kinds of feelings you are feeling made all 
 
of the difference. Our counselor, Vinny, was a gem. He had 
 
great insight and was able to give each person in the group 
 
some hope that there is really an end to all this & it can even 
 
be a positive one! We were taught different parenting skills, 
 
what, by law was mandatory for us as parents to provide, how 
 
to set limits and stick to them and most of all we learned that 
 
we were not alone-VERY IMPORTANT!!!
 
 
 
Without Cary & this group I know that I would not have 
 
(almost six years later) a beautiful, successful, happy, healthy, 
 
& sober daughter now. She has since graduated high school,
 
and attended a few years of college and is perusing a career 
 
in finance...all thanks to Action, Carey, & her counselor.” Dell 
 
Schillec – Parent. 
 
• Here’s what Robin Bateman has to say about ACTION and 
 
Cary Quashen… 
 
 
 
“When I called and spoke to Cary the first time I knew he 
 
would help us. He was reassuring and kind hearted. I felt 
 
desperate and he shared my concerns about my daughter. He 
 
knew exactly what I was talking about with little explanation. 
 
He spoke to my husband and I individually and also to my 
 
daughter the first night we went to ACTION. I noticed his pager 
 
and phone were going off constantly and he was overwhelmed 
 
with parents seeking his advice and guidance during their 
 
times of crisis. The difference 
 
he makes in addressing the concerns, education and emotional 
 
needs of addicts and their families is amazing. Cary is a man 
 
who gives and gives of himself to better our lives, and that of 
 
our community.” Robin Bateman – Parent. 
 
• Here’s what Kim Stroh says about Cary Quashen and 
 
ACTION… 
 
 
 
“Attending the ACTION Parent & Teen Support Group Program, 
 
and meeting Cary Quashen specifically, has changed my life 
 
considerably. Cary played a key role in my recovery as a parent 
 
of a drug using, defiant teen. Yes, I went through a recovery 
 
just as my daughter did. He has educated me about drugs, 
 
teen behavior, discipline, consequences and consistency. And, 
 
he's taught me that guilt gets you nowhere. That it's not my 
 
fault. With the parenting tools that I've learned from almost 
 
10 months at Action, I've become a better parent. I've learned 
 
techniques that other parents have used and had success with. 
 
Cary is always reachable by phone during times of crisis. When 
 
my daughter relapsed, Cary returned my frantic call with the 
 
calm, reassuring manner that you can always count on. When 
 
I hung up the phone, I felt at ease, and didn't fall apart as I 
 
had in the past. During the next weekly ACTION meeting, we 
 
worked through the reasons for my daughter's relapse and I 
 
walked away with tips on how to get through the next week. 
 
My daughter has been clean and sober for 9 months now, and 
 
we're both so blessed to have been (and, still are) a part of the 
 
ACTION Parent & Teen Support Group Program.” Kim Stroh - 
 
Parent.

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